You've decided to invite someone you're dating to your home for
a romantic evening and you want everything to go well. Here are
a few tips to help you achieve that result.
There are a number of factors you need to consider when planning
your romantic evening:
1. Your Physical Surroundings
It's a good idea to make sure your house or apartment is clean
and tidy. It may not be anyone's primary focus but it will make
an impression on your guest, even if it's subliminal.
Spend a few hours doing the cleaning yourself, hire someone to
do it for you, or, at the very least, shove all that clutter
into your closets or under the bed. Wipe down surfaces to get
rid of dust and stains.
Apart from the living and dining areas, there are two other
rooms that need your attention:
a. The bathroom
Wipe down the sink/washbasin, tub and shower stall. Put a fresh
cake of soap on the sink and hang fresh towels. At the very
least your guest will use the bathroom to wash his or her hands
so make sure it's a pleasant experience.
b. The bedroom
Get rid of any extraneous clutter like clothes strewn around the
room or on the floor. Change the sheets, make the bed and wipe
down any surfaces. If your guest ends up spending the night, you
don't want him or her racing off for a tetanus shot in the
morning.
To create a romantic atmosphere in your bedroom, have some
scented candles on hand and an easy-to-reach sound system. You
might also consider buying a quilt cover in a rich, romantic
color and a set of sheets to match.
2. Your Choice Of Menu
While food can be an excellent means of seduction, it's a
mistake to choose too complicated a menu unless you're an
experienced cook and you don't get easily flustered.
Simple dishes like spaghetti or ratatouille make a tasty and
satisfying meal without spiking your anxiety levels. The point
is to enjoy the evening along with your guest, not treat the
event like it's a university-entrance exam.
How To Avoid Psycho-Chef Syndrome
One trick is to prepare as much of the meal as possible
beforehand so you're not rushing around like a pinball once your
guest arrives.
Have all the ingredients chopped, diced and ready for cooking.
Do this the night before or earlier that day, whatever works
best for you.
Salad ingredients can be prepared earlier and stored in separate
containers, then added to the salad bowl and dressed before
serving.
You can even cheat by purchasing your meal from a favorite
restaurant and having it delivered (or picking it up) before
your guest arrives.
Definitely buy desert from your favorite bakery or supermarket,
unless you're a wiz at whipping up a Pavlova or meringue.
Another option is to prepare dessert the night before and reheat
it if necessary when you're ready to serve it.
3. Your Cooking Area
Make sure your kitchen is clean before you begin cooking. Yes,
you'll no doubt make a mess once you start but you don't want
yesterday's dishes in the way. Your guest may offer to help so
the kitchen needs to meet minimum health standards.
It's up to you whether you accept this help or not, but we
recommend that you do, even if it's only a token effort like
tossing the salad. Sharing cooking tasks can be a wonderfully
romantic interaction as it creates a special kind of intimacy.
Have you ever noticed how much more easily conversation flows
when two people are doing a task, as opposed to sitting face to
face?
4. Setting The Table
Set the table beforehand. Use a good tablecloth, your best
silverware and a nice set of plates. Use your best glasses and
an attractive salt and pepper set, milk jug and sugar bowl. Show
your guest that you went to some trouble to make the meal a
special occasion. This is not the time for melamine dishes or
chipped or mismatched crockery. You're aiming for a touch of
class.
Use candlesticks on the table for a romantic ambience, or place
candles on other surfaces around the room.
Background music is a must but make sure it's romantic and
subtle. Limit blaring rock and roll or rap to the period when
you're preparing dinner, but please, no high-octane music while
you're eating.
Set the sound at a low volume so it doesn't interfere with your
conversation. And remember, if you don't play music during the
meal you run the risk of filling any silences with the sound of
people masticating.
5. Cleaning Up Later
Don't let your guest anywhere near the kitchen after the meal is
over. Hopefully you'll have better things to do with your time
together.
But all is not lost if they do insist on helping with the
chores. Many a couple has fallen in love while doing the dishes,
for two main reasons:
1. As mentioned earlier, there's the ease of conversation that
takes place when you're doing a task rather than concentrating
on talking.
2. Doing dishes together is like playing house. It can actually
feel very romantic, especially when one or both people realize,
"This is what I want with this person." You won't get the same
effect if you use a dishwasher, so set aside at least a couple
of pots, which will you allow to suggest, "I'll wash and you
dry."
With a little forethought, anyone can create a romantic evening
at home. The old cliché, "the way to a person's heart is through
their stomach", has more than a little truth to it. Test it
yourself with someone you care about. The least you'll get is a
great home-cooked meal.
About Author :
Marguerite Bonneville is a Master Practitioner of
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