thinking about a few comments that I had heard from guys here and there

regarding, "Why Pretty Girls Cry". Of course I had to question them in

order to get them to reveal their thoughts on the subject. I asked them

a simple question- "Do you think that women that are pretty dislike

other pretty women?" Hmmm, I received a lot of answers immediately,

without any thought, seemingly. The answer that was the most popular

was.."NO!!" I know so many pretty women that are beautiful and the last

thing that they would think about theirself, is exactly that. They

cannot see what we see in them at all. They think every other women in

the world has more to offer.

My next question was, "do you think that women constantly compare

themselves to other woman?" This question took no time at all for them

to answer. "Yes and no, They think that we (men) are comparing them to

other women. And that's what gets them all weird". Additionally, "They

think that we are lusting after them in our minds or wondering what

they would look like naked. They compare themselves with other pretty

women, yes, but in more of a way to improve themselves for us. My

girlfriend compares herself with women that do not even come close to

her on a any scale and still finds reason to knock herself down".

Hmmm, I seem to be saying that a few times, but it's because women are

so generalized. If one women is one way with one guy, he thinks all

women are like that. When women generalize men, they call us male

bashers, or feminists. What do we call guys that generalize us from

their past experiences?

So whats up with the fact that pretty girls really do not look at

themselves as pretty girls? Is it something from their past?. (seems

like the age old excuse for everything)

I, myself remember a guy asking me that exact question. "Why do all

the pretty girls think they are ugly?". I shrugged. I really had no

answer. I never put myself on that level, of being pretty that is.

In all the research that I have been doing on this subject, I will

tell you this, `beauty is in the eyes of the beholder`, nothing more,

nothing less. If we look in the mirror and see no beauty, that is in

our minds only. Not in our partners minds or a strangers mind. We are

constantly supported by our spouses and we constantly mistrust their

comments. Why? When are we going to start to see ourselves as a

beautiful being? A UNIQUE being. A one and only being.

Ladies when you cross paths with another that you feel is way above

you, for whatever reason, shoes, hair, dress, body, or just her smile,

think this; she is also looking at you and seeing something in you that

she lacks and would love to have.

Also, it's part of us, built into us, and born with it in our brain to

compare.

Some will look for weakness or flaws in others just to make

themselves feel good. That is a negative comparison. It is not a bad

thing to want to be a better person. We just have to be very careful to

not take it to an extreme that blinds others to our thoughts and

intentions.

Men tend to automatically call us jealous when we reveal our thoughts,

if another women is involved. Another mystery in my mind; Jeesh, we are

not always that worried, OK. So get off your ego trip guys. Sometimes

we are genuinely curious as to why we see and feel the vibes we get

from you. Also as you read earlier, just maybe, we care and we want to

improve ourselves. Maybe men should try and do that sometime. Then they

will actually see where we are coming from.

Another thing I have noticed is that men are very good at making us

believe that we are doing what they say. Why is that? Is it to win an

argument and feel totally in control of our thoughts or is it that they

themselves feel vulnerable at times and less than perfect to us. Men

have told me that they do not look at other men and wish they were like

them. Well duh! Would that not make them female? Why does everyone try

so hard to give excuses to genders?. Why can't we just accept and

appreciate each other for our differences? Why do we have to be so damn

equal on everything?

Females are soft, sensual, sensitive, emotional, passionate,

intelligent creatures. That's us, and we are tired of apologizing for

how we were born. We work overtime trying to understand our male

counterparts. We are what makes them tick. They are what make us tick.

We want nothing more than to be their everything. What is so wrong with

that? Men are strong, protective, sexual, and feeling beings.

Men and women together make a very nice song.

These are just my thoughts as you all know, so take them with a grain

of salt. Has society totally confused what real people are all about,

to the point that some do not even know they are pretty? That is a sad

thought. Some may think that I have nothing good to say. Well I

actually have a lot of good to say. I wish that life was a perfect

world. It is not even close. My thoughts tend to deal with the real

world and it is not all that great for some. One can not go up until

they have gone all the way down.

We are all pretty in some ways. People think way to much about the

outer physical appearance and I wish that I could meet the first person

that started that negative seed. When did things get so out of

proportion?

There are too many worries and too many unhappy women out there. If I

can at least help one woman see how pretty she is, then my course is

set. Ladies we are all a gift, one that is truly cherished by our loved

ones and yes, we are all pretty girls. Never let that go neglected.

Remember, you choose your thoughts. You are the pretty girl that your

man wants, desires, and will spend the rest of his life with. It's who

we are that makes us the perfect woman. Not just what we look like,

because we are not always going to look the same. Everyone grows older

and everyone changes their outward appearance. What does stay the same,

is who we are inside. Our REAL person is what it's all about. I will

end with this thought:

ONE ALWAYS THINKS OTHERS ARE HAPPIER!

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